That young people thinking: If based on mutual love and does not interfere with other people, why can not enjoy them? I never even hear about this topic on the radio. They ask: "You do not agree with having sex before marriage?" Answer them is that I mentioned at the beginning of the line.
But whether such a view is true? It is not denied at the time of the current virginity is not a priority. Moral values have been shifting as time passed. Book titled A Tribe Apart, said: "Young people have formed their own community ... This community is not simply the collection of contemporary friend, but a separate community [from adults] have the values, ethics and their own rule." But "ethics" and "rule" among the young still I ask.
Causes
Early Puberty been used as the causes of sexual behavior in the early period. However, if I just simply because of this. Sexual maturity too early will not affect the youth if he has a shield which can prevent the influence from the outside. Yes, the environment is a factor that can trigger the extraordinary desire of all who have in themselves a teenager. Unfortunately young people are receiving a bombastic legitimate premarital sex about over whelm the books, magazines, video games, film and Internet. Mass media depicts premarital sex as glamour, fun and risk free.
In addition to large-scale propaganda is propaganda that is truly extraordinary great. As we see earlier, the teenagers have their own community. Communities that have "ethics" and "rule" itself.
Friends of the them said that the sex will prove masculinity and femininity someone. While some teenagers get pressure from the boyfriend, has more by curiosity. He feels life is not complete if not feel. Are young people ready to face the consequences? What are the consequences?
Physical Impact
Adolescent sexual conduct which would have the possibility to get pregnant despite using contraception. Each method has a certain percentage of failure. Even teenagers who regularly mengkonsumsinya. Although he will not be pregnant, if he can guarantee will not happen any time in the future. Venereal diseases such as syphilis and AIDS gonorhoe and so may be booming now will infect them. And in fact there is a danger that more frightening than all that I mentioned above. Danger is it?
Psychological Impact
Many young people think that if they hold together during sex, this will be their approach to one another. However, reality says another! This is very disappointing, there is no happy or feeling the warmth of love at first presumed. They will look to one another with a different feeling from before. The girls may appear to be less interesting and feelings of the men against girls that will not burn. While the girls may feel exploited or even degraded. A pair of teenagers to have sex before marriage was indeed passing through a line that they may not go back! Usually a pair of lovers who have been through premarital sex have a large enough percentage to be separated. This is caused by a feeling of distrust, not trust and feelings of jealousy in the developing heart. A teenager says, "If he wanted to do with me he may have been doing sex with other people. In fact, I feel so incredible ... I'm jealous and doubt, and mistrust. "
After I explained the background and the factors of sex and danger of premarital sex, there may be argued that the experiences have sex before marriage will help a husband or wife. No! This would even reduce the intimacy in marriage!
In premarital sex the emphasis is pander and-only in terms of the physical aspect of sex, no respect to one another because of carnality that is not restrained and to the pattern itself. Meanwhile, in the wedding, intimate relationship requires a healthy self. The focus is on giving, 'meet the obligations of the parties that sex only', and not get or receive. Remember that satisfaction in marriage is not obtained because of physical factors.
Survey stated that they already hold a potential premarital sex two times bigger “prostitution” do after marriage.
Solutions
Which means that communication is one solution. A pair of lovers sometimes too fast physically intimate. They spend time with the statement that excessive love, so this reduces the communication means. They could be the dark eyes and ignore the serious differences that might appear after the wedding. So, should a pair of human children who engaged to provide more time to communicate with can-complete problem-the problem and goal in life.
Then, in addition to all that, parents and adults around the adolescent plays an important role. A teenager who has a good relationship with parents and adults who care for them will likely not start sexual activity early.
In the end, all decisions are in the hands of all of us! All started from family and ourselves. Whether he/she will take a good, or whether he will take the bad. The answer is in yourself!
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